"If you want something to last forever, you treat it differently. You shield it and protect it. You never abuse it. You don’t expose it to the elements. You don’t make it common or ordinary. If it ever becomes tarnished, you lovingly polish it until it gleams like new. It becomes special because you have made it so, and it grows more beautiful and precious as time goes by.
Eternal marriage is just like that. We need to treat it just that way. I pray that we may see it for the priceless gift that it is..."
"From the beginning she knew what kind of marriage she wanted."
F. Burton Howard, “Eternal Marriage,” Liahona, May 2003
Tonight someone asked me if not having a temple marriage was a deal breaker. My answer was a muddled "Yes" and I was bothered by my less than emphatic response.
We're always told to "decide now" and in my mind I thought I already made that determination. With the passage of time and no need to act on that decision, it has lost its definition. I said something like, maybe if I'm desperate when I'm older I might consider it, but he'd have to be amazing.
With a little more time to think about it, this is my conclusion:
If he were amazing I might settle for a civil ceremony, but I don't plan to be dating someone who couldn't attend the temple or wasn't close to being able (equally yoked and all that good stuff); and if he truly loved me, I would hope that he wouldn't want me to give up that dream and settle.
Purely hypothetical ;)
In other news BJ's pizookie is Mmm mmm good. My calorie counter did flips in the wrong direction tonight. Tomorrow's another op.
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